Every now and again circumstances dictate what direction you need to follow. Well today’s blog posting was not planned, but three events made it clear to me what I needed to write. First there was a comment on my blog where it was said “I’m at the brink of giving up”. Then there was a text message on my phone from a young man that I am trying to help through a rough passage in his life. He said “I’m sick of my fucking life”. Then I read a blog post on ‘Finding Ones Way’ which featured an animation video that in my interpretation shows somebody that got to the point in life where they could take no more, and gave up.
Recently I wrote an article titled “Never give up Believing in Yourself” and this received quite a few comments and loads of emails. So I already realised what an extremely important and complex area this is, so decided to further what I said.
Does this sound familiar to you? I never get to do what I want to do. I just can’t please everyone. I don’t know what I want to do. I never have any time for me. My needs, my desires are always ignored. I do everything to please others. I get treated like a doormat. I have no talent. I can’t do anything right. Nothing ever works for me. I will never escape my past. I will never break out of my nightmares. I will never amount to anything.
Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.- Dale Carnegie
I know you’ve been fighting so hard to make ends meet, to keep yourself going when things just don’t seem to be working out. Yes life may well be proving unbelievably frustrating at the moment but you try so hard not to let it get you down. It’s important to remember how far you’ve come. So that you never give up.
Many of you live from day to day with unrelieved pain. You suffer at times with mental and emotional torment. For too many this takes up a large, unbearable part of your life. And you feel there is no getting away from it.
Don’t give up. There are too many nay-sayers out there who will try to discourage you. Don’t listen to them. The only one who can make you give up is yourself. – Sidney Sheldon
Give Up is defined as the loss of hope, admitting defeat and the act of surrendering with no will to fight again. Life is filled with so many challenges. You’ve got to constantly regain control of your emotions and stay on top of each situation despite its difficulty. But you can do it!
Nothing could be worse than the fear that one had given up too soon, and left one unexpended effort that might have saved the world.- Jane Addams
At some point on your life journey you get to the point where you feel like giving up. Often it feels like life has thrown you into the deep end yet you can’t swim. You find yourself in crushing situations that you don’t know how to get through. But never give up, because you don’t know when you are reaching the point where you are just about to make that break through.
Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time. – Thomas Edison
We all have our fair share of good days and bad days, days when we feel more certain than others. You have to understand that you are the one who ultimately dictates how you react to situations.
Be a warrior, don’t give up on life, face your challenges and stay strong. Understand you can’t change the past, because it’s already happened. Yet you can design your future by dealing with the current challenges of life positively.
You can face those challenges by taking a single new step every day. Just don’t give up. Be proud of what you have already achieved. Congratulate yourself for the achievements you have already made.
Feel good about who you are), where you are now and display confidence about what to look forward to in the future.
Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is bliss, taste it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfil it.
Life is a sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is too precious, do not destroy it.
Life is life, fight for it.
– Mother Teresa
As a final note I want to let you know that there are people out there that are creating communities to help others. You have to realise that there are others that have gone through what you are going through and come out the other end. They have made it through and won. Even though sometimes they struggle to accept this themselves. But the communities they are evolving will offer you friendship and support. They consist of people just like you, who have faced the very same trials and tribulations that you have, but they have never lost hope, or given up. My friend Jessica is creating such a community at ‘Finding Ones Way’, and her experiences in having been a domestic violence victim is helping so many others find that indeed they are not alone, and support is at hand. There will be groups out there for people who have faced the same situation as you, so get googling, and find them.
DON’T GIVE UP WHEN LIFE GETS HARD!
If you have any thing to add please leave a comment.
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I am speechless….. Thank you so…. From the bottom of my heart. You have that way about you which is priceless…
Build us up to the highest petal stool : )
You deserve every good thing that comes your way. The community you are building is awesome girl, you are changing people’s lives, giving voices to the silent, and i respect who you are and what you do.
Well done Larry… You are speaking from the heart and that is a good thing. On ya Jessica too.
Alejandro – high praise and complement. TY
Larry, words of wisdom. This IS such a strong topic that could you could actually do a series on if you so desired 🙂 Too often, things become so overwhelming that you just get tired; tired of fighting, tired of trying, just plain old tired. Having a support system can make all the difference in the world, but isn’t always the savior. You have to find it deep within yourself to go forward and to get past it all. You have written but another great post Larry. Thank you for sharing 🙂
Mary – what a fantastic comment. Wow. Knocked me of my chair. Would say more but gob filled with chocolate cake mmmmm
What a well written post and the topic bang on. So many people shut down and become so introverted when they are faced with life’s difficulties. It is so important that we continually remind them to keep going even in our darkest hours.
You might find a post a did interesting on a similar topic http://www.aaronoutward.com/2011/02/good-side-of-disapointments.html
Aaron – great comment, and thank you for kind words. It is all our duty and privilege to help others see through their hard times. Welcome to my blog and hope to see you again. Will visit your article and blog right now
When the world says, “Give up,” Hope whispers, “Try it one more time.”Keep on going, and the chances are that you will stumble on something, perhaps when you are least expecting it. I never heard of anyone ever stumbling on something sitting down.”
~ Charles F. Kettering
Larry,you are to be blessed for doing so…
Alpana … thank you and grateful for sharing such an inspirational quote
Hi Larry –
You said, “You find yourself in crushing situations that you don’t know how to get through. But never give up, because you don’t know when you are reaching the point where you are just about to make that break through.” So many people believe that their hopeless situation is unique. Bad things happen to good people every day and it’s how we cope with these stresses that makes a difference. Your advice about letting go of the past is key here. Resentments from the past fester inside of people. We cannot have a good day and a brighter tomorrow if our minds and hearts are stuck in yesterday’s life. Others forget about living in today’s precious moment, and their minds are far ahead of them selves in to the future. If a person has one foot standing in yesterday and another foot standing in tomorrow, certainly today will be pissed on. And that’s a miserable day! Great post, Sir! 🙂
Charlie – as ever inspirational comment. Morale to the story … don’t give up … don’t look back … let go … move on
Truly inspiring Larry.
Rimly – Thank You.