Have you struggled to get through rough times? If you have then you know how difficult it is to deal with things like job loss, break up of relationship, financial set-back, or health difficulties. This post will tell you how to become resilient, having the ability to cope with stress and crisis, and rebound quickly. It’s important that you learn to cope well with adversity!
Resilience is being able to face up to adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or any significant source of stress in a positive way. It means “bouncing back” from difficult experiences.
Resilience is all about being able to overcome the unexpected. Sustainability is about survival. The goal of resilience is to thrive. Jamais Cascio
We all know that at some time in life well be forced to deal with challenges, transitions, and hardships. It’s how we deal with them that most will impact our life. When challenging experiences do arise, your ability to bounce back determines whether most of your life is enjoyable and meaningful or troublesome and frustrating.
So how do you strengthen your spirit to deal with the onslaught of adversity rather than being pulled down by its effect?
To start with you have to refuse to let the rough times to pull you down. You have to have an attitude where you are prepared to confront and overcome your challenges, rather than seeing them as unbearable problems. When you do everything becomes an opportunity, where you can learn, grow, survive and prosper. Alternatively they’ll cripple you and make things get more difficult from then on.
Resiliency is made up of various characteristics.
Have a never give up attitude.
A never give up attitude is not one where you deny the things that are happening, but where you stay resolute and determined to see things through to a successful conclusion. No matter how bad things may be you refuse to let them put you down, or when they do you certainly don’t let them keep you down. You’ll always fight back holding in your mind the never give up attitude. This sense of positivity helps you overcome the negative effects of any situation.
Driven by Future Goals.
Resilient people do not let adversity define them. They find resilience by moving towards a goal beyond themselves, one that excites them and ensures they are never prepared to give up on it. No matter what happens they hold on to this goal and believe so strongly that they can and will achieve it. They see their bad times as nothing more than a temporary state of affairs….”
Belief in what’s possible.
At the heart of resilience is a belief in oneself and also a belief in something larger than oneself. Having belief in yourself and in what’s possible will strengthen your inner self and lead you to see yourself as capable and competent, able to deal with any crises.
Develop a strong sense of purpose.
Resilient people have a strong sense of purpose and meaning for why they are doing what they’re doing. They are guided by a vision that gives meaning to their work and lives. This purpose gives them a strength to keep going no matter how tough things may get. This blog describes the first principle of Building Resilience that came out of the research. This purpose and its meaning provides a personal power and strength to persevere when times become really difficult; when there is a feeling of desperation and giving up seems the easiest way out.
Control what you can.
The emphasis is on “personal control”. Resilient people focus their energy on those events that they have influence over, rather than situations beyond their control. They accept circumstances that cannot be changed.
No matter how far a resilient person is stretched or pulled by negative emotions, he or she has the ability to bounce back and can deal with anything and everything it meets on life’s journey. How resilient are you?
“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.” Steve Maraboli