You have to believe in yourself, particularly when others don’t believe in you. I love proving my doubters wrong. In my book, when others don’t believe in me, I let their doubts be extra fuel to drive me towards reaching my goals. The drive to accomplish anything and persevere until you reach your destination comes from the inside of you, and nobody can prevent it, unless you let them.
Do you feel alone? That no one believes in you, what you can do, what you are doing? Do you find it hard to feel motivated when you feel that no one has any confidence in you? When everyone is telling you what you are doing wrong, and no one is telling you what you are doing right, it will eventually drag you down. This will not only destroy your motivation, it will probably stop you from even going for your goal. But I say don’t you ‘dare’ let it.
I do understand how aloneyou feel. I myself have had people close to me that didn’t believe in me or what I was doing. Everything I did brought criticism, questioning and derision. I was often told that I should not pursue this or that because I would fail. There are still those out there waiting for me to fall down, ready to say ‘I told you so’. I don’t worry about them a jot, it isn’t going to happen.
It’s only natural when you feel the pressure of this criticism, that you start to doubt your own abilities and eventually give up. But then your self-esteem crashes to the floor.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt
Never let anyone tell you that you can’t or won’t do something. Always believe that you can even when others don’t. Don’t let their doubts bother you. If you put in the hard work, dedication and commitment showing a resolute mental toughness anything is possible, and wouldn’t it be nice, although not important, to say ‘told you’. If you never try or are deterred by the doubters then you will never know what could have been.
In the same vein, sometimes it seems that when you are doing well, people you care about the most may not be as enthusiastic about it as you are. It can be frustrating, to say the least. Don’t let those, who put down your good luck or accomplishments, get you down. Instead, use their lack of interest or support as motivation to do even better things. Remember, you don’t need anyone’s approval, just your own. Don’t let others’ negative or indifferent attitudes affect your desire to grow and prosper.
“Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt.” Shakespeare
Sometimes people make it clear they don’t believe in you – even people you think should be on your side.
“I don’t think you have what it takes”.
- They ask you to stop.
- They tell you that you’re throwing your life away.
- They tell you you’re wrong.
- They tell you that even if you get what you want it won’t be worth the cost.
Don’t let them put out the fire of passion in you! Believe in your dreams even when others don’t! This moment is your opportunity to believe in yourself.
Always remember, life is way too short to care what others think. If they criticise you for believing in yourself, their opinion isn’t worth valuing. Start believing in yourself and just know it’s impossible to please everyone, so don’t try. Don’t let them put you down, because if you let them, they’ll hold you there.
The older you get the more you will realise a lot of people in this world do not deserve your time, or friendship. So do yourself a favour, let them go. Don’t take anything personally, what’s the point. There are even people close to you that want to hold you back, who don’t want to see you reach the top. Don’t let them win.
Realise that you are your own person and ultimately the only one in charge of your own actions and feelings. You cannot control other people but you can control how you react and feel about them. Be yourself! Don’t keep trying to please others, or always worrying about offending others.
Be a leader and stop being a follower TODAY! Be able to stand up to people. Be independent. Have power over yourself. Nobody can bring you down, nobody’s opinion can stop you from following your dream.
- Don’t be afraid to be yourself. Don’t change yourself just because someone wants you to or they are judging you. You are you, you can’t be anyone different.
- Don’t force change on others. They are themselves, they can’t be anyone different.
- Don’t surrender to anyone. Show to others that you are your own man or woman, and you will do what you want whether they like it or not.
- Don’t expect submission from other people. Treat everyone you come across with respect, don’t try to walk over them.
- Don’t try to find compromises all the time. You don’t have to agree with others opinions, but do respect them.
- Don’t judge people. They are who they are.
- Don’t let negative people suck your energy away.
- Don’t procrastinate. Get things done.
There will always be someone who wants to bring you down, so:
- Do take charge of yourself and move beyond those who try to bring you down
- Do know that you are valuable and have special skills and talents
- Do keep a positive outlook
- Do believe in yourself
- Do stay motivated
- Do take Action
- Do give yourself credits for your successes
When you have a dream, it is your job to work hard and accomplish it. Anyone who doesn’t believe in your dreams doesn’t need to hear about it. Let them see the end result when you have achieved what you set out to do. Don’t let anyone else control you or what you can or can’t do. It is your life. You are the person responsible for yourself and your decisions. Never surrender your personal power to others. Believe in yourself. That’s where your personal power lies. In time, your goals will be achieved. Give everything you do the best you’ve got, and good things will come back to you in return.
Think to the future, when those that doubted you, who didn’t believe in you have to change their minds. If they don’t, be satisfied knowing that you accomplished your goal on your own.
“People may doubt what you say but they will believe what you do.” Author Unknown, from Achieve Your Dreams
Keep your true friends close to you, and keep the ones who are quick to turn on you, or stab you in the back where you can see them! Don’t let anyone stab you in the back. Friend or Foe. As Sun-Tzu said “Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer”.!!
No one can give you worth, value or pride; only you can do that. If you truly believe that you can do something and that you can be successful, don’t let anyone stop you. GO FOR IT!