Only you can be the master of your own happiness. You have control over whether you are happy or not. Nobody else!
In simple terms you cannot wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy, because I repeat, only you can be the master of your happiness.
“You are the master of your destiny. You can influence, direct and control your own environment. You can make your life what you want it to be.” Napoleon Hill
So, when was the last time you felt unhappy due to something that someone did or did not do that hurt or disappointed you?
I’m sure we have all been hurt by words or actions of others.
Whether these were unthinking, uncaring, or hateful … we have all been in a situation where words have been used like a sword in battle … and have the power to hurt. But, it is because we let them.
Now stop shouting at your screen.
It will do you no good.
No matter the words you hear or read, you are in control of your reactions.
The same with how you respond to the deeds of others. Because just like words, the actions others take can hurt us.
Whether it be words or actions, at times they feel like a stab wound to the heart, but it is because we let them. We have all been hurt by our loved ones. Life at these times can seem so unfair. We live and breathe just wanting to feel our love returned, and when we sense it is not, we feel so down and lifeless. It takes learning one thing that allows us to deal with this scenario, and that is loving ourselves because ‘only you can make yourself happy.’
“Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.“ Earl Nightingale
What wonderful words of wisdom.
Are you living by them?
Being your own master of your happiness.
Most of you alas aren’t and you depend on others to control your happiness.
Waiting for their call.
A simple text message.
An expression of their admiration for you.
Walking through your door.
Any small sign, just to show they care.
Haven’t you learnt by now that you cannot wait for someone or something to make you happy.
You can be happy right now! You don’t have to wait for someone or something, or for tomorrow, before your life is joyful and meaningful. You can blame and complain about people and problems creating the unhappiness in your life, or you can look at the possibilities for your own happiness right now.
Even though your job or lack of, partner or being alone, children or friends, finances and health may well not be the way you want, this doesn’t mean you can’t be happy and content or master of your happiness.
You can enjoy what you have or bemoan what you don’t have.
You can take steps to improve your life or you can stay stuck and stressed.
You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anyone.” Maya Angelou
I learnt long ago that putting my life on hold for others didn’t get me anywhere. I was miserable, I was broke, and I was alone. Enough was enough. And my misery didn’t change the actions of those I was waiting for. If you are going through the same, you have to learn to become the master of your happiness.
Something had to change, and I determined that what needed to change was me.
No longer would I put my life on hold waiting for others.
If all you want is to be loved, you need to understand that no one will ever fulfill that feeling as much as if you wholly and completely loved yourself, becoming your own best friend. So love yourself!
“When you become a whole and complete individual it doesn’t matter what storms appear in your horizon; you will have the strength to weather them.”
You have the power to create your own happiness, to be master of your happiness.
Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude. Denis Waitley
You need to inspire yourself by setting yourself one or two things you really want to do with your life, and work towards them. We need to be making our own happiness, not relying on others to provide it for us. Working towards fulfilling our dreams, focusing on our goals, energizing your life by working towards these goals every day, empowers you and gives meaning to your life.
By doing this the only person who can control your happiness is you. No longer blaming your unhappiness on the words or actions on someone or something else.
So, get busy asking yourself questions such as:
Who am I?
What am I interested in?
What are my hobbies?
What do I want to be?
What are my goals?
Where am I headed?
Now promise yourself that never again will you allow the words or actions of another knock the wind out of your sails, push you down to your knees or lose sight of how brilliant you really are.
Make yourself happy because only you can. No one and nothing holds any power over you. You are the master of your happiness.
Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present. Jim Rohn