When you hit the wall…

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When you hit the wall…

Have you ever been stuck in a rut? That after all your efforts, you end up hitting the wall. Most of us have hit the wall at some time in our life. Many, at this point, give up and turn away in defeat, walking away from their hopes and dreams.

Maybe you need to be a pillar of strength for those around you. Yet you feel drained and have nothing more to give. You’re stressed out socially. Pressured professionally. You’re a candidate for burnout. It’s common, but it’s avoidable. Just hang in there a little longer, you have all the tenacity, dedication, and strong sense of responsibility that can see you through.

We all reach a point in our lives when we hit the wall. Nothing is going right, and it seems like nothing can go right. Disappointment, discouragement, despair. The key is your staying power and the ability to maintain positive energy. We all know we have to survive downturns at some stage on our life journey. Eventually things turn around and everything works out — often better than we expected. You just have to stick with it, see things through to the end, don’t walk away.

The key to maintaining positive energy is building your belief that you can turn things around, that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. When we are in a downturn in our life, negativity often gains control and we feel that things will not turn around. You see no end in sight. No positive conclusion. You must let your inner strength and resolve rise to the surface and respond to your challenges with firmness, strength, and resolve.

Take confidence in knowing others who have accomplished the most amazing things in their lives have hit the wall too.  They’ve faced discouragement.  They’ve questioned if what they want is possible. Yet, somehow they pressed through to their dreams.

Of course it’s hard, when the path is uncertain and the answers aren’t there.

“Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.” Michael Jordan

You can view the walls that you encounter in life as an opportunity for personal growth. It forces you to go beyond yourself. It forces you to think beyond your normal way of thinking. It pushes you to be creative and resourceful, and to show determination and perseverance. It’s better than quitting and running away, surely.

But right now you’re find it difficult to rationalise.

  • You don’t enjoy activities and relationships you once enjoyed.
  • You feel numb and less focused.
  • You’re not experiencing your normal range of emotions.
  • You feel exhausted and drained.
  • You feel as if you’re going through the motions, but aren’t quite “all there.”
  • You feel as if you were on a treadmill getting nowhere.

You’re juggling balls all the time all by yourself, of course that’s tough, but just don’t give up on yourself. Don’t neglect the job you already have. Make your workday environment special for yourself. Add plants, pictures, whatever reflects who you are. Make yourself feel at home when you’re at work. That will help you feel more alive.

Don’t give up and leave your dreams and your breakthroughs unfulfilled. You deserve success. You have put so much into it. You never know what’s just around the corner.

Don’t stop believing. You are the key to your success. How you see yourself and believe in your ability to use your capabilities to make a difference will determine the outcome.

The power of our thoughts is significant in a assortment of ways that impact our lives, our work, our ability to reach past what is and create what can be.   In many ways we become our words and our thoughts.  Success is about refining and taking small consistent steps until you accomplish your dream.  It’s easy to dream and give up.  It’s hard work to keep going. Find the confidence to keep going in the midst of the dark and discouraging times.

Focus on the goal rather than the setback.  That’s the secret.  On the dream rather than the barrier.  On the promise rather than the struggle.  That’s what keeps us going.

The key here is analyse what you are doing and if it makes sense to keep working on it, then keep going until you reach the results you deserve.

If you are stuck you should think about what is holding you back and what the best solution is.

There came a point when I wanted to stick my head underground like an ostrich, ashamed to find myself on the brink of failure.  What would my family and friends think of me when they found out that I failed. I wouldn’t be able to face them, or live down the shame. But I didn’t give up. I fought on. I kept my resolve, just like you can.

“Things are never as bad as they seem”. Miss Maudie, To Kill A Mockingbird

As Michael Bublé sang “Dream and they might come true …Things never are as bad as they seem.”

It’s never as bad as it seems. Be patient, and you can overcome the wall. Believe in yourself and in what you are doing. See it through to its successful conclusion. Now take positive resolute action and go get your dream.

Have you ever hit The Wall?  If so, what did you do to get past it?

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About the author: Larry Lewis
My name is Larry Lewis, Health & Wellness Life Coach, Founder of Healthy Lifestyles Living, contributor to the Huffington Post, recently featured in the Sunday Mail Newspaper and somebody who went from being an owner of a chain of gyms and fitness fanatic, to a visually impaired overweight and incredibly sick person. Read about my illness to wellness story.
  1. sulekha says:

    You say focus on the dream than on the struggle but don’t they say that the journey is more important than reaching the destination? Life sure is confusing but positivity helps and keeps you sane during rough times.

    • LarryLewis says:

      Sulekha – absolutely right. The journey is more important and teaches us so much more. But the light at the end of the tunnel, that will keep us moving when we hit difficult times is the goal that we desire. Its the thing that will get us to pick ourselves off the floor, and get back on our journey. See your goal as the beacon, your journey is the path you take to reach it. No matter how thick or high the wall is you hit, you won’t lose sight of that beacon, and it will entice you to find you way through, over or around that wall. Let positivity lead you, it will help you gain clarity.

  2. Holly says:

    Hit a wall!! yes a time or two. Like they say, pick myself up, dust myself off and kept right on going! I used positive thoughts, and did some soul searching and also did some exercise… that really gets my mind going the tougher the work out the more stress leaves.. I also revisited what my dreams were! And of course connecting with like minded people who sill give me a gentle kick in the butt!!

    • LarryLewis says:

      Holly great comment – dust off keep going, positive thoughts, soul searching, revisit your dreams, connect with like minded people and exercise. Theres a blog post if i ever did see one. Any time i hit a wall, like you, i head straight to the gym, and then me and the weights go to battle. The result my muscles are crying, but my head is refocused. Don’t you just love training.

  3. A positive attitude will always help us get over, under, through, and around the walls of life. Thanks for the inspiring message, Larry!


  4. Steve Rice says:

    Thanks for the great reminders on how we look at the obstacles that seem so insurmountable at first! I appreciate the reminder especially right now as I’m facing obstacles of fear and doubt that threaten to paralyze my progress.

    • LarryLewis says:

      Steve – Everybody is facing fear at some points in their lives. But as long as you don’t let fear control you, let fear stop you, its completely okay to have fear when you face obstacles. Just don’t get all worked up about it, don’t get frustrated, embrace it and realize that you are about to have a breakthrough…if you stay persistent and you focus on finding a solution to whatever the obstacle might be then you will get through it.

  5. Bongo says:

    Looking for that light at the end of the tunnel that let’s me keep going….or is that light lit? did the light go out..what happens when it does go out..can it be re lit…hmmmmm…As always…..XOXOOXOXO

  6. I think the first thing one should do when one hits the wall is to consider how they got there. Usually that wall is an obstacle because our thinking was too parochial or we failed to frame the situation properly.
    Sit back. Pour a cup of coffee or wine. Consider where you came from, why you got here- and what were the other routes. Then, regroup and go.
    Consider this as if it were a traffic situation. Just because a road looks like it’s a straight line from position A to position B does not mean that the bridge is not out, that everyone else is traveling that route and creating a traffic backlog that impedes progress, or that the scenic route is the best way to travel…

    • LarryLewis says:

      I like this comment Roy. So often we get so stuck into what we are doing, that even when it feels like we are stuck in quick sand we still try to pull our feet from it and take a further step. Instead we should every now and again, stop. Take time out to think. To Reflect. To ask yourself some powerful questions. At the same time we shoulkd really step away from what we do every day, and allow ourselves to do a helicopter view of our life. These things can really empower us.

  7. rimly says:

    Cannot give up that light though at times it gets pretty dark here. But I cannot give up hope. Thank you Larry for this truly inspiring post

    • LarryLewis says:

      Rimly – don’t you dare ever give up. Your qualities, talents, and heart are so wonderful, you brighten alot of lives with your art, allow yourself to see your true worth, please.

  8. Debbie @ Happy Maker says:

    Hi Larry,
    This one I like,”Focus on the goal rather than the setback. That’s the secret. On the dream rather than the barrier. On the promise rather than the struggle. That’s what keeps us going.”

    This is very true. When those walls stop up we have to find away around them. I have been known to dig a tunnel underneath them. Don’t recommend that, It is hard work.LOL

    Great article and very helpful.
    Blessing to you,

    • LarryLewis says:

      Debbie if i ever end up in prison, i’ll be sure that when i get to phone a friend, i’ll choose you so you can teach me how to dig the tunnel. Whether we go through, around, or over the wall, we just have to make sure we don’t let it stop us. We will always face obstacles on our journey, that’s part of our growth. We can overcome anything, we just have to believe in ourselves, and believe that we can.

  9. Jessica Mokrzycki says:

    I’ve found sometimes just stopping what I’m doing and remembering to breathe is a great way to regroup, get my perspective and strength back, and move forward.
    Great post!

  10. Anna Sides says:

    Sometimes, you need to hit the wall in order to come back to reality 🙂

  11. I have hit that wall many, many times Larry. It makes me stop and take note of what is going on. It is usually a warning signal for me and my life. Great post!

    • LarryLewis says:

      Mary thank you. One thing I know for sure about you is you are both a fighter and never a quitter. So no matter how many times you hit the wall, you always bounce straight back up again.I take it to be more of a test than a signal.

  12. I’ve been reading your posts for a couple of months. I finally hit the wall due to a very painful lower back, being about 17 pounds overweight, tired constantly, and just getting more and more frustrated with myself. So, with the help of your posts I’ve joined my local YMCA with a girlfriend and we’ve signed with for their 12 week Coaching Program. Yay!! I feel better all ready with my “planned just for me” program of exercise. Thank you so very much. Keep your great posts coming!! 😀

    • LarryLewis says:

      Mari – you should be very proud that you’ve taken positive action. Your 12 week programme will benefit you in so many ways. I hope when you see the results you achieve you will decide to now stay with fitness for ever more. Good luck and let me know how it goes.

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