So many people have only grown into a little bit of what they can be. In so many cases, they have only been able to accomplish so little of their full potential. Many having bucket loads of talent and skill have been unable to achieve much real success. So, what makes some people rise to the top in their personal and professional life, and others not?
The keys to your happiness, contentment and genuine success is to break the feeling that you are constantly swimming upstream, by uncovering any negative conditioning that may be holding you back and preventing you from achieving your dreams.
What’s holding you back, preventing you from reaching your full potential? We tend to avoid thinking about this because it can be painful, or we blame our troubles and lack of progress on circumstances out of our control or other people. Yet this does nothing to move us forward. The moment you honestly and clearly face your limitations, you begin to go beyond them.
Your deep-rooted constraints are often shown or expressed in your excuses. Your excuses position you as a victim, a person who has no choice or control over what is going on. When you make excuses or blame others, you let yourself off the hook. You release yourself from ever having to do anything to change your situation.
Are there any internal constraints or demotivators, pressures, negative thinking, or other issues holding you back from reaching your full potential? You need to identify the underlying causes of the problems which are holding you back.
Personal constraints come in many different forms. Many are behavioural; others are physical or intellectual constraints that are so distracting that it comes in conflict with everything else you may be doing to get ahead in life.
Between wherever you are today and wherever you want to be in the future, there is something that is holding you back. For you to achieve your goals, you must identify your constraints, those factors that are restricting your progress.
Personal constraints are the things that hold you back. They set limits on where and how far you can ultimately go. They are the ones that constrain you from moving forward, from rising higher, and from seeing the world in a whole new perspective. No matter how talented, skilful, or gifted you are, you will not be able to rise above the limits that define who you are.
Take a good, hard look at your fears, your assumptions, your weaknesses. Admit them, and put your effort into overcoming them. It will be worth the effort.
For years you’ve had dreams of attaining success in various areas of your life, yet here it is – years later – and you haven’t yet accomplished what you’ve been dreaming about. Why is that? What’s holding you back?
It’s you. You are the only thing that is holding you back from a massive level of success in each and every endeavour that you get involved with. Whether it’s weight loss, personal development, career growth, relationship success, spirituality – you name it. What you want to accomplish is irrelevant. You can do it; no matter what it is.
The problem is that you allow yourself to struggle. You allow yourself to look at the obstacles that are in your path, and then you empower those obstacles to actually have the ability to keep you from getting what you want.
The process for removing personal constraints, or at least mitigating them, is as follows:
Step 1: Check your progress.
Obviously, you try to do your best every day, however, it is just as obvious that this does not always get you to where you want to be, reaching your specific goals, not just doing your best. Measuring your progress will teach you important lessons to where things may be going wrong
Step 2: Establish a Goal
The starting point is for you to be absolutely clear about your goals. What is it that you want to achieve? The greater clarity you have about exactly what it is you want, the easier it will be for you to determine the best way to achieve it. Once you have determined your goal, make a list of the steps that you will have to take to achieve that goal. What are the various things that you must do to get from where you are to where you want to go?
Step 3: Identify Strengths
Your growth will be driven by your strengths. Knowing your strengths will enable you to discern the strengths that you need to build on further. Finding your strengths is one of the best ways to improve your energy and effectiveness. If you know your unique combination of strengths, and you play to your strengths instead of focus on your weaknesses, you can dramatically amplify your impact.
Step 4: Target Your Top Constraints
The key here is to identify those constraints that are potentially hurtful and that have the biggest impact on your life. You can’t rise above constraints that you don’t or won’t address. People who actively choose to identify, minimize, and remove the significant constraints in their life will fare better than those who do not.
However, personal constraints can define you only if you let them. If you ignore them, you’ll only be giving them the power to limit you; but if you choose to confront them, identify them, and work at conquering them, you will be able to dramatically increase your chances of achieving real success. If you can address your limiting behaviours, then you can effect significant changes in your life.
Once you have identified your main constraint in each area of activity, focus single-mindedly, like a laser beam, on alleviating that one constraint. Don’t busy yourself with little problems around the edges. Focus on the one major limit that is holding you back more than any other factor. Removing this constraint can assist you in the achievement of your most important goal faster than anything else you can do. Get on with it.
Step 5: Specific Action Steps to alleviate personal constraints
You need to work on improving your behaviour eliminating your personal constraints. You need to come up with some simple action steps that will allow you to gain control over what is happening, and help you break through your most demanding personal constraints. It’s important that each step be specific about the things or areas that you are working on. Note the word “specific” here. You really need to set out the specific steps that you are going to take. When you have the steps all set out it should ultimately lead to the removal of your constraints.
Step 6: Forward Focus
To discover your untapped potential, identify your strengths, instil confidence, and provide the clarity and focus necessary for the development of an amazing future, you need to identify your personal strengths and free yourself from your personal constraints. Take the time to invest in yourself, the results will astound you. Your life won’t just be a pipe dream, but you must keep working to move your life forward..
It is not about your background, your lack of experience, your age, your intellect, or any of a hundred other stories you may have told yourself. The real question is whether or not you believe you have a contribution to make and the courage to confront the things that are holding you back.