An important characteristic needed for personal growth is the ability to clear your mind, to remove those blocks that keep holding you back, to clear that negative thinking from cluttering your mind and begin looking at solutions rather than problems.
Do you ever feel as if you are knocking your head against a brick wall?
How badly have your frustrations built up within you?
Life is full of frustrations. Life sometimes feels as though you are bogged down by that challenges that confront you, and frequently you have a feeling of being overwhelmed. This leads to you being overloaded with an incredibly negative thinking pattern. When you feel like this there is no way you can move forward in your life.
Don’t put yourself down, everyone gets frustrated from time to time. From those silly little things like losing your car keys to the major angsts such as continually failing towards achieving your goals. Nobody likes having to deal with situations that are challenging particularly those that seem beyond our control.
“Life is not an easy matter… You cannot live through it without falling into frustration and cynicism unless you have before you a great idea which raises you above personal misery, above weakness, above all kinds of perfidy and baseness.” Leon Trotsky
When frustration gets the better of you, it will consume you, and can thwart you from being productive in your daily life, make you angry and bring about ill health.
Being able to manage frustrations allow us to remain happy and positive even in trying circumstances, and as importantly it allows us to put ourselves out there trying to make things happen which will bring about our personal victories, joys and achievements. If we’re not prepared to tackle frustrations, we can’t bring about any of these, because nothing comes easy in life, we have to often battle through many frustrations before we see our personal victories.
Let’s look at frustration for what it really is. Frustration is something that happens whenever the results you are experiencing do not seem to be appropriate for the effort, time and work you are putting in. Frustration comes about when your actions are failing to produce the results you are after.
Frustrating problems are incredibly energy consuming. When we let these frustrations get the better of us they can make us worse than useless.
“My recipe for dealing with anger and frustration: set the kitchen timer for twenty minutes, cry, rant, and rave, and at the sound of the bell, simmer down and go about business as usual” Phyllis Diller.
So if you are constantly finding yourself falling short, and are constantly feeling twisted up by your frustrations, it’s time to get a grip and do something about it.
Jim Conway, author of Men in Midlife Crises said:
“One of the greatest frustrations in midlife comes from what I call the myth of making it… The pressure of time running out brings the facts of life into a brutal clash with the fantasies a man has dreamed since youth… Someday he was to become a king of this or that; someday he was to be a millionaire, a sports hero, an actor or poet or singer or writer; someday he was going to be rich and famous… But suddenly now is upon him. He’s reached midlife–and he begins to realize that the future is here, that all he is ever going to achieve must happen now.”
So frustrations are brought about when people make the conclusion they have not made it and they never will. The fear and disappointment of believing that there dreams will never come true, creates an overload of frustration and sadness.
Frustration like this must be an awful feeling. To lose heart in this way, and to see all our dreams evaporate is not something I’d want to experience and nor should you. So do something about it. Never give up, face all the obstacles you come in contact with head on and push yourself forward every time. Focus on what you can change, the things you can do something about.
“Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion . . . I myself prefer to laugh, since there is less cleaning up to do afterward.” Kurt Vonnegut Jr.
Abraham-Hicks says that everything is about two things, what is wanted and what isn’t. Where you put your energy enlarges so when we get frustrated we focus on what is frustrating us, which is what isn’t wanted, which causes it to get worse. So make sure you focus on what you can change, look at solutions, and not the problems.
Tomorrow I will offer you methods to manage the frustrations in your life.