It is so important for each of us to accept the things that happen. We all know life is unpredictable, and many events occur that can dramatically change our lives in an instance. So a strength that is essential for us all to develop is the ability to truly accept whatever comes and adopt a positive mindset instead of a negative, defeatist one.
“Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.” William James
I am who I am
• Suffering from bad health
• Overweight and unfit
• Single and living alone
• In need of rebuilding my life
Of course there will be negative consequences to losing a substantial amount of vision. Seeing’ is something we have taken for granted all our lives and when this is severely restricted it can take a long time to come to terms with it. This would be no different for any long term illness or disability. The same applies if you’ve lost a love one, or even financial disaster. Each results in you losing something precious, and which derails your life for a time. The timer this is, well that’s down to you.
While we come to terms with a major change in our life it will have many negative impacts. For me it was struggling to deal with many of the daily activities I needed to be doing, finding myself alone and isolated, and of course all the health issues made every day a struggle.
For too long my inner focus was too much on my vision and basically feeling sorry for myself. This couldn’t possibly do me any good. What a waste of time it really is feeling sorry for ourselves or cursing our bad luck. Either way it’s not going to help us change how things are, certainly not help us to find any solutions but instead will ensure we stay where we are handicapped and lost.
Of course we have to first find our own way through the initial trauma, giving ourselves the time we need to cope, adjust, adapt and move life forward putting your life back together. Many of us need to go through the grieving process before we can get to the point of acceptance. I wrote about this in a previous article titled Vision Loss and the Grieving Process.
Faith includes noticing the mess, the emptiness and discomfort, and letting it be there until some light returns.” Anne Lamott.
Right at this moment you might be thinking that it is not in your power to improve your life in any way. Well let me tell you that even if you think you have very little left there is still so much strength in you which you are not aware of waiting to be discovered.
The turning point for me was the day I became sick of being sick. When I realised I was the one in control of my road to recovery. I may be visually restricted on the outside, but my dreams that I held gave me a perfectly clear vision inside of the future I still wanted to live. There were things I wanted to do, and achieve which were important enough to me to drive me beyond the melancholy I faced.
Humans are endowed with the capacity for either hope or despair. This unique ability allows us to generate positive or negative expectations about our future, regardless of our present circumstances, and engage in behaviours that shape our future, whether good or bad. Hope or despair, it comes down to the choices you will now make.
Hope allows you to see your life once again being both full of purpose and immense potential – as well as capable of overcoming your current struggles and difficulties. We all need a purpose. In fact there is your key to moving on with your life. A purpose gives meaning to your life. Maybe like me you will decide to help others going through the struggles that your life’s journey has endured. Think about the question for a while ‘what am I doing here, what purpose have I to fulfil?’
Are you ready to accept life can be better than this?
We all live through good and bad times, the worse thing that can happen to a person is that they believe in nothing more than a bleak future, that they are trapped and handicapped by their poor vision. But it doesn’t have to be like that. So don’t let it be for you.
What do you choose? To allow things to carry on as they are or be driven by the great things you can still do?
“Of course there is no formula for success except, perhaps, an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.” Arthur Rubinstein