In times of great stress or adversity, it’s always best to keep busy, to plough your anger and your energy into something positive. Lee Lacocca
Are you at a point in life where you simply accept things will never be any different than they are right now, and right now things aren’t good? Alternatively do you believe that you have within you the potential to make things so much better… in fact you know life can be brilliant.
Life is very rarely straight forward and certainly never easy, often we face difficulties that we have to find a way to battle through. These difficulties can bring us to our knees unless we face up to them and find ways to overcome them. But to do this we need to find both an inner strength and the motivation to carry on.
I find it so sad speaking to people who find their lives derailed by the difficulties they’ve met. They’ve ended up accepting what fete has thrown at them and they’ve come to expect a future of problems unhappiness and struggle.
It happens to the best of us – one minute we are enjoying a seemingly good period of life, the next, life has thrown us an obstacle that leaves us holding our head in our hands and asking ‘why me!?’
It doesn’t matter what area of your life has been affected; be it your relationship, career, finances or health.
Have you ever thought you had it all planned out and then BOOM disaster smacks you in the face, and your life suddenly feels out of control?
Problems can so easily pull the rug from underneath us. They interfere with even the best-laid plans. But they are a fact of life that can remind us of our own inability to control destiny, no matter how hard we try. But they also allow us to demonstrate our belief in both ourselves and our destiny.
I’ve been unable to write a single word for two weeks. Everything’s been put on hold. Stuck between four walls and feeling useless, isolated and stuck. Eye operation number five. Back to dealing with recovery. Sleeping much of the day away. Eating the worst diet possible due to my limitations of not being able to see well enough to cook or being able to go to the shops to buy provisions. But throughout it, I called on my inner strength, fuelled by my expectations of the future. This was just temporary, it wasn’t going to stop me from fulfilling my big picture. This belief empowered me through. Today I’m back to blogging. My 1st step on the road to recovery, one small step that will get me to where ultimately I want to be.
I believe that it is our optimistic expectations about our big picture that can help us get through anything. Whenever things look bad, reminding ourselves of our big picture will get us through.
I also remind myself everything happens for a reason. According to Aristotle, there is always a reason for everything that happens. Your experiences are designed to shape you, define you and, hopefully, grow you into your highest potential.
“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” Marilyn Monroe
Dealing with times of great stress or adversity require that we get clear about the outcomes that we desire and that we demonstrate perseverance, patience and the determination to carry on. When we do have no doubts we can get through even the most difficult challenges.
By having a powerful big picture for our life helps us not just to make sense of events and situations but provides us the energy to carry on and be driven not by our pain but by our goals, desires and intentions.
So I may still be literally drugged up to the eyeballs, but every day things are improving, and I am back on course to achieving my big picture, and no longer am I facing great stress and adversity. Don’t let anything stop you from going for yours!