Many people in this day and age have forgotten how to enjoy life. Through the hectic pursuits of their goals, people today accumulate stress and anxiety, failing often to achieve their desired outcomes, instead finding a life completely out of balance where their health suffers.
When things go wrong, when you experience sudden reversals and disappointments, your natural tendency will be to respond with negativity, fear, and anger. Whenever you feel hurt or threatened by loss or criticism, you react to protect yourself with the fight-or-flight response.
Well don’t, you have to take firm control over your mind and emotions, and then you will be able to take control over the situation. There is always something that can be done to resolve a problem or improve a situation.
Focus on what you can control, your next decisions and actions. To be your own turnaround specialist, to take complete control over your life and every crisis that comes along, the first thing you must do is to accept 100% responsibility for yourself and for everything that happens from this minute forward. Accept responsibility and take charge.
You especially must keep yourself positive and focused. Above all, refuse to blame anyone for anything. As soon as you stop blaming other people for what has happened and take responsibility for the future, your negative emotions reduce dramatically, your mind becomes calm and clear, and you begin to make better decisions.
You need to show a level of resilience in response to the inevitable ups and downs of modern life. What I want you to consider, is, are you trying to do too much? Maybe you set your bar to high. Your expectations are too great. Being happy, having a good life that provides emotional, psychological, and spiritual fulfilment and satisfaction is a target that everybody should pursue, first and foremost.
You can indeed have anything you want, there are fewer barriers to individual advancement and opportunity than ever before, but you can’t have everything. You have to be selective. You don’t have the time. No matter how many technological advances our society is now benefiting from, there are still only twenty-four hours in a day and seven days in a week.
There aren’t enough hours in the day to devote yourself to everything you would want to. There aren’t enough days in the week for you to devote yourself to every area of life, to achieve your utmost in each of them. To become the best in any one area will require you to give short shrift to other areas. If you want to be best, you have to show single-minded devotion to that one aspect of your life, at the expense of everything else.
If you are the type of person whose brains is wired so specifically that reaching the top of one aspect of life is so important and only this will lead to happiness and fulfilment, and you are prepared to do this at the expense of everything else, then so be it. But I think for most contentment is achieved from having a more multifaceted life, one in which we do the best we can in a number of different areas by making compromises and choices.
The quest for personal fulfillment doesn’t have a simple solution. There isn’t a one fit all solution that works for everyone. Equally important, the belief that most people have, is that if they devote most of their waking hours to work, it will provide most of their non- monetary needs, and therefore enable them to reach contentment. Alas, in most cases it doesn’t work out like that.
Rather than look to one aspect of your life to meet all of your needs, you have to balance things out between them all. You must give time and energy to everything in your life, all its different aspects, and by doing this you give yourself the best opportunity to meet all your different needs. It is so important to understand that for you to achieve contentment, you need to make compromises and choices. Learn to be selective.
It is time for some internal reflection. You need to do some thinking and soul-searching. You must determine which areas of your life are taking up too much of your time and energy and leading you to short change other areas in your life. That’s certainly not a simple task. But when you do it, and discover the answer, you must make changes. From then on you must resolve to set aside time each day, or at least each week, to each of the areas of your life that are important to you.
You have to do the best you can in each area, and not allow any of them to suffer. You can’t give 100% effort to everything, you can’t spread yourself that thin, and your health can’t take it.
You may be surprised by the outcome. You actually may find that you achieve more in the individual areas of your lives by creating a more balanced use of your time. Sometimes less really is more. Your best performance may come after you’ve decided you don’t need to give 110% and you remove the pressure for perfection.
So stop trying so hard and focus more on establishing a balanced way of life. Know that finding balance in life can be the key to long lasting happiness.
We all want to be healthy, happy and balanced. Live a full life with happiness and joy each day. Achieve balance by slowing down and no longer trying so hard to fit everything in.