Be aware of, and accept that adversity is inevitable in life.
Whether we like it or not, adversity is part of life. We can all overcome our difficulties and a significant factor which will determine your recovery process is demonstrating resilience. We each possess an innate drive to overcome and get through challenging times and experiences which can support us to bounce back and recover from the worst of situations.
My greatest dream is help others improve their lives, sell 10,000 copies of my book while feeling purposeful and living fully, building my author, coaching, and speaking platforms.
I admit that I like to be acknowledged and recognized for my work and expertise. I love nothing more than receiving a message from someone who tells me I’ve helped change their life. But I’m not driven by either fame or money. I always just imagine that all my hard work and efforts pays off, and I make a significant difference to the world helping those people that need my help.
From the deepest fibre of my being, that is what inspires me, drives me on, and that is making the difference impacting lives for the better. My blogging, authoring and coaching are the mechanisms I use to try and bring about change. They will create the legacy I want to leave, ensuring I do not die with my message still inside of me.
This should be important for everyone. You should be inspired and driven to create a lasting, wonderful legacy where you reach your full potential. At the times where you face obstacles and problems you need to be determined and resilient.
A couple months ago, I underwent my second retinal detachment operation in five years. My dreams were shattered in a single instant of bad news. Unable to read the screen of my computer, or that of my mobile phone making writing and editing my book incredibly difficult, and blogging just as hard.
I have a big mission. I have a huge message, a huge dream that’s still inside of me which I want to share with the world. So no matter how much of a struggle the last few months have been nothing will stop me. I know I can overcome any problem. I just have to be resilient.
My life’s journey has taught me that. Nothing has been able to hold me back for long. Not financial bankruptcy, house repossession, break up of my marriage, death of my mother or ill health.
George Bonanno, defines resiliency as the ability of individuals in otherwise normal circumstances who are exposed to an isolated and potentially highly disruptive event such as the death of a close relation or a violent or life-threatening situation to maintain relatively stable, healthy levels of psychological and physical functioning, . . . as well as the capacity for generative experiences and positive emotions.
In the simplest terms, whatever traumatic experience we face, we each have the capacity to develop a positive outcome despite the adverse experiences we have faced. We just have to show resilient behaviour, thoughts, and actions. Believing in ourselves and the path we are taking in life.
To live your best life you have to adopt an attitude of resilience. We have to show resilience to enable us to continue along our path no matter the obstacles we face, and not crumble when challenges arise.
I find the story of Helen Keller inspirational. She lost her sight and hearing due to a mysterious fever when she was only 18 months old. She overcame her deafness and blindness to become a strong, educated woman who spoke about, and promoted, women’s rights. So why would I allow virtual blindness in one eye stop me.
There are so many inspiring stories of people who overcame seemingly insurmountable odds. They triumphed over their adversities to live successful, productive lives instead of surrendering to it.
It is so easy for each of us to allow self- pity to overcome us, seeing life as being so unfair, questioning ‘why has this happened to me?’ This is a recipe for disaster. Instead we have to find the opportunities and possibilities which will help us through, dealing with everything we face, determining the right solutions, and then taking action to break away from our problems.
My life story demonstrates how we can adapt to any adversity, trauma, tragedy or threats. Whatever we face, whether it be serious health problems, or financial disaster we can bounce back.
So have you allowed adversity to stop you in your tracks? Well don’t it’s time you showed a character of resilience.