Today is the beginning of a new chapter in my daughter’s life as she starts her first day at College. She’s growing up and moving on and I’m excited for her.
As the starting date loomed ever closer, her excitement was overshadowed by a growing sense of nervousness and anxiety. Natural insecurities and doubts prevail. What if I struggle with my course? What if I don’t fit in? What if I can’t make friends?
College in itself marks a major transition in her life, with new classes, new people, new surroundings, and new expectations and responsibilities. On top of this she is still getting over leaving school and missing her old friends
So amidst all the excitement of this new chapter in her life comes a lot of pressures. It can definitely be overwhelming, but it’s also a chance to grow, and enhance her personality and bring about the transformation of the adult she will become.
How she adapts to her new environment is extremely important in the first couple of weeks. The first day is always going to be the worst, as everything comes at you all at once, and it’s a lot to take in. But once you make friends get comfortable with your timetable and find your way around things quickly get a lot better.
The life of a new college student is full of change. She is entering into a new chapter of her life. At first things may seem unbearable at times, and the pressure of everything too much to handle. But in life, nothing is actually impossible. Every challenge in life is simply an obstacle to overcome.
She is learning an important lesson, life can be great fun and life can also be a challenge. Overcoming barriers is a part of both the fun and the challenge in life.
You may have had to fight long and hard to gain ground in a particular situation. Success does not always come easily, but for those who persist and don’t give up, success will come. You can achieve anything if you choose to.
You can be sure that no matter how good your life is, there will always be some obstacles to face. But to be successful in life we all have to overcome barriers to allow us to reach our goals and fulfil your passions. So welcome these obstacles, and know life will never be dull.
This enables you to build a positive mindset a key attribute to enable you to succeed in life. Realise that every problem has a solution, and you must look for that solution and not get overwhelmed with the problem.
No matter what obstacles cross your path , always press on never stop trying. Your life can be filled with excitement or it can be filled with problems – you decide!
“Life’s up and downs provide windows of opportunity to determine your values and goals – Think of using all obstacles as stepping stones to build the life you want” Marsha Sinetar
So today you enter the college gates for the first time. Now you have the opportunity to recreate yourself in any way you want. Enjoy the months ahead where you will make many new friends, and here I would like to give you some advice offered by Ann Landers, the agony aunt renowned in America before her passing away:
THE TEN COMMANDMENTS
HOW TO GET ALONG WITH PEOPLE
1. Keep skid chains on your tongue; always say less than you think. Cultivate a low, persuasive voice. How you say it often counts more than what you say.
2. Make promises sparingly, and keep them faithfully, no matter what it costs.
3. Never let an opportunity pass to say a kind and encouraging word to or about somebody.
4. Be interested in others, their pursuits, their work, their homes and families. Make merry with those who rejoice; with those who weep, mourn.
5. Be cheerful. Don’t burden or depress those around you by dwelling on your minor aches and pains and small disappointments.
6. Keep an open mind. Discuss but don’t argue.
7. Let your virtues, if you have any, speak for themselves. Refuse to talk of another’s vices.
8. Be careful of another’s feelings. Wit and humor at the other person’s expense are rarely worth it and may hurt when least expected.
9. Pay no attention to ill-natured remarks about you. Remember, the person who carried the message may not be the most accurate reporter.
10. Don’t be too anxious about the credit due you. Do your best, and be patient.
Source: Sun Sentinel
These are wise words that everybody should heed when developing relationships.
So my darling daughter, be sure to incorporate this into your daily interactions with others, and enjoy this new chapter in your life.
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Awwwwwwww good luck to your daughter..it is exciting and scary times..but your right..press on and go froward…(please remind me that I just said that) LOLOL..and I loveeeeee Ann Landers…….As always…XOXOXOXO
Bongo, hold on, just readjusting my eyes, checking my pulse, this is a true moment, never to be forgotten, let me confirm, BONGO, of http://bongoisme.blogspot.com just said:PRESS ON AND GO FORWARD
It is a scary time for all of us that went through it but with a father like you she will be just fine..
Alejandro, it sure can be scarey. Thank you for your kind words, i’ll always do my best by her
Really wonderful letter Ann got it right most of the time her and her sister!! Must be a challenging time for both of you.. pride and fear of the unknown or known lol. Wishing all the best for your daughter!!!
TRhank you so much Jim. I found her 10 commandments absolutely brilliant!
All the best to the young lady 😉
Thank you Charles
Congratulations to your daughter and to u Larry,a proud moment in your life….I wish her all the best in all that she strives for…good post.
Thank you as always Alpana
“Keep skid chains on your tongue; always say less than you think” – I knew you didn’t write that lol!
College was one thing I didn’t do, jumped straight into work which was bad enough…
and then you found me … what a wonderful chapter in your life has only just begun
Great blog post! I still remember going off to uni and feeling all of these things. I love the ten commandments of how to get along with people! I may print these off and stick them to my wall!
Sam thank you for your comment. When i came across the 10 commandments i was so impressed. They’re worth following for sure.
Great info. Thank you for writing this and putting it up.
My pleasure Greg thank you for visiting
This is the most important time in your s and your daughter’s life. You have groomed her for this special day where she will fly and be her own person. Your words and love are tucked within her and she will pick dip into her pocket for those words of wisdom and love when she needs to…
You will be proud of her…
Savir, i have no doubts that both my girls, as the years pass, will constantly astound me and make me extremely proud. So far i have enjoyed watching their development and growth, i’m very lucky to have them in my life
What an exciting and scary time. I have experienced a few transitions like that. You offer wise words. 🙂
Rachel – Life is all about change, taking steps in different directions … but you are right it is always at the beginning very frightening.
Larry, first off…congratulations to your daughter on her new adventure! She will have so many chapters to put in this book of her life 🙂
Secondly, may I say that I loved your list so much that I copied and printed it to give to my son! I may even laminate it 😛
Mary it is a wonderful list, and i’m so pleased that you have passed it to your son. May it help him establish wonderful relationships in his life