Is your life being restricted by limiting beliefs that you’re holding on to? Do you ever feel ready to take your life to the next level, but then find yourself acting in ways that directly conflict with what you say you want?
Like many you may find yourself stuck in an unhappy relationship, finances are a mess, career is in meltdown, health is precarious, and life feels unfulfilled, yet you seem unable to do anything about them, you seem to be powerless, unable to change these things that would dramatically improve your life.
It’s probably not due to a lack of ability, desire, physical or monetary reasons. You need to be looking inside. It’s the result of a lifetime of baggage affecting your mind, old mental self-sabotaging programming you’ve acquired over the years, those limiting beliefs that hold you back.
So if you’re struggling to get clear on what you want or if you’re not taking the right actions even though you know what must be done, look inside yourself and try to uncover what’s really holding you back.
Often your worst enemy is your limiting beliefs. Beliefs are basically your thinking patterns that have built up over the years to form a mental image of what you think is “the truth”. They define who you think you are, how you perceive the world and eventually everything you think you’re capable off. These beliefs then drive your behaviour. Limiting beliefs are potentially destroying your future.
You see it is YOU that is stopping you from accomplishing your goals! Proven studies show us that 80% of the time what holds you back most is your own belief system or to be more precise your limiting beliefs, and only 20% of the time are there legitimate barriers keeping you from being at your best! Most people truly have no Idea they are sabotaging themselves this way. It all takes place in your subconscious.
Basically your subconscious mind is like a storage dump of all the things that you have been exposed to throughout your life. Within one’s subconscious mind sit negative limiting beliefs that can actually cause one to sabotage their chances of achieving success and happiness.
Yes sabotage! Self-sabotage occurs when the success or happiness we are enjoying is above the level our subconscious believe were worthy of. In other words if you become more successful than your subconscious believes you should be, then you subconscious will bring you back down to the level it believes you should be at. You may sabotage your plans, procrastinate, allow hurtful people into your life, and continue other detrimental conduct. Dam those limiting beliefs!
If you don’t believe you deserve happiness and success, you will put yourself in unfavourable situations so you don’t allow forward progress. Many of your failures and inability to bring about change are due to unresolved issues from the past that you have subconsciously chosen to hold onto. You are probably filled to the brim with items that don’t serve you and stuff you did not even know was there! Crazy isn’t it!
If you allow these limiting beliefs to influence all future decisions quite possibly they’ll be sabotaging any chance of true success you’ll ever have!
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. Marianne Williamson
Could it just be you need to give your mind (and emotions) a spring clean? If you’re sick of chasing your tail and losing track of endless to-do lists then it’s time to remove all that baggage that’s been cluttering up your life.
“We all need to create an environment conducive for planting our seeds of possibility and restoring mental energy.”
It is time to let go. Letting go is just a total and repeated emptying of the mind and the emotions so that something else can come in and show you your way.
You have to release any anger, hurt, worry, or resentment tied to your old memories and to have the clarity and strength to start anew.
I’m going to provide you a very simple method. Simple but effective.
It’s important to clean out the old baggage from the past to make room for the new. This is very simple to do if you’re willing to let go. If you allow yourself to let go of your old limiting beliefs, disappointments and expectations, you clear the way for greater and greater achievement now.
1. Identify your limiting belief
First identify behaviour problems and limiting beliefs that keep re-occurring in your life that are negatively affecting you. Take a few moments to think about beliefs you hold that might be holding you back. You know such as ‘I’ll never meet the perfect woman because I’m ugly, too skinny ….’Perhaps you want to write, but keep telling yourself ‘no one will read what I write because I’m boring.’
2. Where’s this come from
The second step is to look at the origins and consequences of these limiting beliefs and be honest about how they are affecting your life. Try to determine what stage in life this belief was created. See if you can find the evidence to prove this belief. Then realise there is no evidence because it’s simply not true.
3. Thirdly ask yourself the following questions in order :
• Could I let this feeling go?
• Could I allow this feeling to be here?
• Could I welcome this feeling?
• Am I willing to let go?
4. New Beliefs
Choose a belief you would like to have instead – make the decision to let your limiting belief go and adopt new behaviours based upon new positive empowering beliefs. Instead of what this limiting belief claims, look at the opposite, ‘What CAN you do?’ Whether your limiting beliefs are true or not, you can replace them by searching your mind and finding things you CAN do to replace the things you believe you cannot.: “I am ugly” with “I can attract just the right partner for me.”
5. Re-frame the evidence
Now take yourself somewhere quiet and allow yourself to meditate for 20 minutes. Meditation is about letting go. “In meditation you let go of the complex world outside in order to reach a powerful peace within…the goal of this meditation is beautiful silence and clarity of mind.”
At the conclusion of this repeat to yourself 10 times your new belief, making it into an affirmation.
So “I can attract just the right partner for me.” Say it 10 times.
Do this all now with your own personal limiting beliefs.
As you see it is your choice. Let go of your limiting beliefs and begin moving forward. It might seem simple, but these are the basic steps to moving past any limiting belief.