All experiences can serve as life lessons provided we learn from the information and invest its value in our own lives.
I have come to realise that those of us who fail should find a way to teach others from our experiences because we have much to teach from the life lessons that we had to go through on our own journeys. We can help others avoid the mistakes we ourselves have made and show them the solutions we found.
One of the worst traits that affected me after my darkest days was feeling sorry for myself. I didn’t want to get out of bed, believing there was no point, life’s was just so unfair, nothing that I could do would change my situation and things were only going to get worse. Life at this point seemed way too hard and there was nothing that I could do about it. One day just seemed to roll into another, I meandered through, doing nothing, achieving no more than the day before struggling to just survive. I had better explain.
In the final analysis, it is not what happens that determines the quality of our lives, it is what we choose to do when we have struggled to set the sail and then discover, after all of our efforts, that the wind has changed direction. Jim Rohn
Things have changed since then. My life has improved so much for the positive it’s like magic. Every day I wake up and do exactly what I want to do. Not only have I seen the results for myself, I’ve seen them for countless of my readers who successfully applied the same principles I applied to my own life. That’s the beauty of sharing our life lessons with others, it can make the difference and help to change their lives.
I learnt that we have to allow ourselves to change. We must struggle to our feet once more and reset our life compass and work towards a new destination of our own choosing. How quickly and sensibly we react to adversity is far more important than the adversity itself. Our reactions and responses are the most important thing needed to get life back on track after adversity.
I had worked so hard to build my life and earn the achievements that I had. Years of hard slog had paid off and for a while I enjoyed the lifestyle that my significant income rewarded me with. But then as quick as a flash it was gone. I was devastated and felt so down. I kept thinking of how hard I had worked, the time and effort I had put in, the sacrifices I had made, and I kept telling myself I deserved better than this. How could it happen to me? I kept thinking ‘why me?’
My mind was wrapped up with feeling sorry for myself. All my thoughts were absorbed with how unfair things were. I focused on my loss, on the hurt I was feeling and I simply couldn’t bring my mind to concentrate on anything else, and so things started to get worse and everything began to go to rack and ruin. All this ensured was that I stayed down longer than I should.
Feeling sorry for myself was tantamount to giving up. And if I allowed this attitude to persist my life would never have been able to move forward in the way that it has. I am sure that many of you have gone down this path after your difficult times struck. Wallowing in self-pity, feeling sorry for yourself and just allowing things to get worse.
Slowly I came to realize that I had to break out of this debilitating way of thinking. I couldn’t throw any more time away feeling sorry for myself, wallowing in self pity. I had lost so much already and allowing myself to stay down any longer would undoubtedly result in things degenerating even further.
I asked myself two really crucial questions. The first was:
‘How much more time am I willing to throw away, and how much more am I prepared to lose?’
From deep within myself the answer came over loud and clear, ‘no more!’
The second question was:
‘What can you I to make my life remarkable again and change my fortunes?’
The answer was clear. I wanted to follow my passions. And the time was right to consider doing my dream job in the thing I was most passionate about. Why carry on fighting what more often than not felt like a losing battle. What pleasure was I getting from what I was doing? Well the answer to that was nothing. More importantly I couldn’t rebuild my life to be the way that it was or the way I wanted, doing what I was doing.
And with what had happened to me, I realized more than ever before that time was precious and I had to make the most of every second, I could wait no longer to make the changes and start putting my dreams into place.
I snapped out of my drudgery, my feeling sorry for myself, and got my act together to allow me to start putting my life back together again. This was a life transforming switch, it was this more than anything else that enabled me to start moving life forward again.
So don’t let yourself waste as much time as I did and react to what has happened to you by taking a path that will allow you to recover, learn from my life lessons.