One of the most common issues I have found people struggle with when they begin working with me as their Life Coach is being unable to bring about a good, life work balance. It seems that their business aspirations and responsibilities take central focus often leading to the detriment of their personal lives.
Everyone has a right to personal life, more importantly for life to be enjoyable and fulfilling it is essential.
But what should you do if your work life dominates most of your time and not only does your personal life suffer but perhaps also your health. The cumulative effect of your life and work being out of balance damages your mental well-being.
Work related stress costs Britain in excess of ten million working days per year. The human costs of unmanaged work related stress extends far beyond this.
I’ve seen this happen to friends, clients and colleagues alike, where they spend so much of their time working, even when at home, that it does cause health problems and damages their personal relationships.
With the growth in technology, it has become easier to work even if you are not at the office; Laptops, Smart Phones and tablets with the Internet make it harder to switch off from work, and working from home through your evening is now common.
It is so important for all the domains of your life (work, family, community, health, social, personal development) to be in balance. Focusing all your time in any one area is a recipe for disaster.
Perhaps you have begun to realise your work life balance is out of sync. There are some very common signs.
• You literally fall into bed absolutely exhausted every night
• You struggle to sleep with work issues going round and round in your head
• Body weight is piling on, and you are eating more takeaways and rubbish then ever before
• Your kids and partner are moaning that they never get to spend any time with you
• You can’t remember having done anything but work for ages
• Most evenings and weekends you find yourself working
• Even when you do take personal time you feel guilty of the work you could be doing
• You’re simply not enjoying life anymore.
There was a time when the boundaries between work and personal life were clear. Today, that’s no longer so. Hence the difficulties many face establishing a good life work balance. It is up to you to say no more and value your health and relationships enough to make the decision to bring about the necessary changes.
Is this important? Of course it is. No one will deny that your work is important. Making money, being successful are natural goals, as is achieving status, but not at the cost of your relationships and health. When we talk about health we refer to both the physical and mental side. When life work balance is out of sync you will suffer in one or both ways.
“Wealth, my son, should never be your goal in life. Your words are eloquent but they are mere words. True wealth is of the heart, not of the purse.” Og Mandino, The Greatest Salesman in the World
Life needs to be a balance between the things you enjoy, the people you love and the responsibilities of earning a decent living.
Life is short and making every day count has to be your top priority which means getting your life work balance right. When it comes to determining all your main priorities in life try to think about what you would want to say you had done when you looked back at your life. One of my key sayings is don’t end up living a life of regret. On your death bed you won’t regret not having spent more time at work, but other things that you may sacrifice you will.
Making time for the things you really love, appreciate and value are of paramount importance. So right now grab a pen and paper and write down your 4 top priorities, the things you need to be doing, nurturing, looking after, and taking care of. Then allocate the amount of time you feel would be right to spend on each of these weekly. So simple yet so important.
Knowing your 4 main priorities in life and spending a fair share of your time on each will result in a good, healthy life work balance.
Let me know your decision.
“No success in public life can compensate for failure in the home.” Benjamin Disraeli