My Journey Of Discovery … Who Am I?

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My Journey Of Discovery … Who Am I?

When most people face criticism, they don’t like it. They may get embarrassed or even angry. They often will go on the offensive while others will go defensive. I don’t actually understand why they do, because I love getting criticised. Of course I like my ego being massaged, hearing praise from others, that’s natural. Yet criticism can make me better at what I do. Some excellent people have given me great advice on things to write about and pointed out when they feel my articles aren’t all that great. Ultimately their criticism will make me a better blogger. Criticism of me is just an observation from another. How do we think that we can get better at anything, if others won’t help us by pointing out our flaws.

Debbie the writer of Scatter Musings Blog  wrote in a comment ‘Anyways just be you as you have been and adventure out a little if you are comfortable’. She’s a real good blogger, and got me thinking.

Alejandro of Web of Life wrote  ‘Be honest, be true to yourself and be real’, another time he said ‘I agree there could be more of Larry but it’s a start’. Alejandro is a guy that’s always ready for banter, and gives praise, criticism, advise and at the same time is always very amusing.

And my greatest critic, in my eyes anyway, who truly has motivated me to put more of myself into my blog posts is Yogasavy  of who said ‘” I still find the person Larry missing” However I will still stop by hoping one day you will reveal a little more about ‘Larry’. On her blog she writes about herself:

I am with many dimensions some more pronounced than others. I am not perfect and not seeking for perfection! Trying to understand my purpose here on earth. Learning to surrender to what is not in my control and to have faith in the universe for gently nudging me into the unknown. Am passionate and whole when teaching yoga. It is this practice that has taught me many life lessons and has forced me to look deep within my depths…..  – Yogasavy

So, not only is she an inspiration to herself, but many others who have the pleasure of reading her blog, but she is also a voice that I listen to, appreciate, and know won’t let me off till I’ve become the real me through my blogs. She’s one of those ladies that just wants to help everybody, and always offers inspiration to them.

One of my non blogging readers seems to always spot when my passions weren’t released through my writings. She never pulls the punches and lets me know when my blog isn’t up to the standards she knows I can produce.

Together, they have got me exploring. First I went online to find some answers. One article I found said:

On the other hand, if you want to be remembered, in part you need to be distinctive. You need to better than every other mediocre writer with good ideas. You need to find your own voice. And some of the great writing advice you can get will help you find yourself – cutting out the excess and leaving the worthy. – Blogthority.

This made me sit back, and turn of my Google explorer. It was time for some contemplation. My question was, is the real me going to be found by searching the web? Of course not. As a personal development writer I know that each of us has a great power inside. I needed to go within myself. The key to unlocking my vast, unlimited potential is buried inside of me. I had to look within myself. There is a switch that you have access to. Just flick the switch, and watch your true talents gradually release.

I needed to go through the layers of reservation and concern; get into the place that is free of all negativity about myself. This is exactly what I did.

Understanding oneself, one’s drives, one’s emotions, the way in which one’s mind works, is crucial if you want to be a successful blogger. Without this understanding, without taking the time to learn about myself, my blog will never amount to much. What a waste that would be of all the things I have to say and teach.

I believe that I have a duty to help others find the answers they are looking for and provide them with solutions that work. My quest is to help myself and others. The best way to learn is to teach.

I have a responsibility to share what I have learned, and will learn in the future, in the hope that I can help others and remind them that it is never too late to embark upon their own journey of personal development.

Look within. Within is the fountain of good, and it will ever bubble up if thou wilt ever dig.  – Marcus Aurelius

But to be the best teacher I can, to motivate people not just to read my words, but to then take action, my writing must come from deep within myself.

I know I have something to say, and that others will want to read it. But I have to start expressing myself. The real me. Not the Personal Development Coach, the Fitness Guru, just me. I have to use my knowledge in my fields of expertise, but I need to write it more like I would say it to a friend. I’m not an academic, I’m not a scientist. I’m just me. A guy with lots of knowledge, information to share, and a passion to help others. When working one to one, I’ve been known to be right in someone’s face. Many say that is where my power is. I’m good at what I do, because I will look anyone in the eye, and just say it as it is. My favourite saying is, there is no ‘I can’t’, there is only ‘I can, I will, I must’. I’ve been trying to conform to some rigid straight laced writing style, instead of just being me. I promise myself that from now on, I’ll write in my natural style, allowing my inner voice to dictate what it is I want to say, in the style that the real me would say it in.

I know to be an effective blogger, and to one day possibly reach my dream of being an A-Rated blogger, I can, I will, I must express the real me through my writing. I have to open myself up and let my readers see what’s really inside of me. If they don’t like it, well nobody is going to force them to read my blog. That will be their loss. What everyone who comes across my blog will see, is a writer that expresses themselves honestly about subjects they know a lot about, who when necessary doesn’t hold back their punches.

Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it. – Hardy D. Jackson

I was born to be unique. So now I will give it my best shot and emerge from this self made camouflage and just show me, myself and I. I love writing, I love teaching personal development, coaching healthy lifestyles and one day the real me shall emerge as an established blogger.

What better way for me to teach you guys personal development, than for you to watch me develop as a blogger. Expressing myself as myself is not easy, but will certainly be worth it.

So now let me throw two exercises at you. I’ve had many of my clients go through this process, yet it’s taken the words of wisdom of others, and their justified criticism to get me to do this for myself.

Exercise One:

Create your List of Heroes. Think about the people that you’ve admired most in your life. On a piece of paper, write a list of everyone that has inspired you, motivated you, touched your soul.

What traits do they possess that you admire? Go through each person on your list one at a time and spend some time thinking about their virtues, their characteristics, their talents. What makes them special?

Now ask yourself, are these the traits that are present inside of you. If you fulfilling your potential wouldn’t you be a lot more like the people you admire?

Now nurture these traits to bring out the best real you that you can be.

This exercise I believe will enable me to realise my potential and make me feel better about myself. Try it, maybe it will help you in the same way!

Exercise Two

At an Anthony Robbins seminar I learnt the value of writing my own Eulogy. A brilliant way of discovering your life purpose is by writing your own legacy. Begin with the end in mind. Visualising how you want to be remembered will set you on the path to your life of purpose, fulfilment, and happiness.

So simply, imagine that you died today and write a eulogy about ‘YOU’ that you would like to have read out at your own funeral. But before you start, let me tell you something. Life right now may not be like you want it to be. In fact it could be pretty shit (that’s me, swearing already). Things just aren’t going your way. Nothing seems to be working. You are down in the dumps. Negativity rules your mind. Well in this exercise I ask you to write what you would ‘like’ to be read out. So look at it from the perspective that you get your act together, that you start winning your battles, success comes to you at last. You achieve your positive visions. That great big, exciting vision that gets you to wake early in the morning, and drives you to take action all day, every day, producing or even manifesting a life that is worthy of you. That your life has become a true expression of your gifts and talents, dreams and desires, and purpose. Now write your eulogy!

What would your own eulogy say? You show me yours, I will show you mine! Post them in to my comments section guys!

Any life, no matter how long and complex it may be, is made up of a single moment–the moment in which a man finds out, once and for all, who he is. – Jorge Luis Borges

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About the author: Larry Lewis
My name is Larry Lewis, Health & Wellness Life Coach, Founder of Healthy Lifestyles Living, contributor to the Huffington Post, recently featured in the Sunday Mail Newspaper and somebody who went from being an owner of a chain of gyms and fitness fanatic, to a visually impaired overweight and incredibly sick person. Read about my illness to wellness story.
12 Comments
  1. Mary Hudak-Collins February 26, 2011 at 2:42 am

    Larry, I loved this post as it gave me a glimpse of the man behind the keyboard on your blog:) Now, about the eulogy…hmmmm…..still not sure. I think that I would like people to be happy and socializing, not sad. I would like to be remembered for what I have tried so hard to accomplish in my life, ie. helping other people in times of need, and maybe not so much a time of need. I want to be remembered as a good mother, a ‘cool’ mom, and a loving and compassionate wife. I would like for my friends and family to look at things that were important to me, say for instance my many recipes that I write and have in notebook after notebook, or my many photo and scrapbooks. I would like for them to remember the first time I cooked and/or baked for them, or the photos we have shared together and share the story behind all of it and laugh about it. I would want people to continue smiling long after I’m gone as I have always believed that the smile is a universal language that is understood by everyone. Lastly, instead of my family spending thousands of dollars on a funeral, I would rather them take that money and donate it to a children’s advocacy center in our area, I’m dead and I don’t need a fancy casket or a spread of a funeral! Now, while all this is going on, I will be in Heaven looking down on my family and friends and cheering them on, knowing how much I love them and that someday I will see them again:)

    • admin February 26, 2011 at 10:55 am

      Thank you Mary for sharing that. Wonderful words, and vision. Oh for my girls to see me as a ‘cool’ dad, to never hear the words again ‘oh you are so embarrasing dad’.

  2. Debbie February 26, 2011 at 4:02 am

    Larry, glad my little comment got you thinking and thanks for mentioning me!

    Wow! I agree this definitely gave your followers a glimpse at the man behind the blog. I am also one of those people that takes being criticised as a learning tool. Now for my eulogy… tough exercise…. lets see…

    Please don’t mourn my passing, but celebrate the life I lived, dance and be silly it’s how I want you to be. I want you to remember me for the loving, caring mom, sister, grandma I was, remember me as the loving, giving wife, remember me for the friendships I had with each one of you. Think of me now as you saw me chasing after my children on the sandy beaches, smile as I smiled when I saw my grand daughter born. Laugh as I laughed at the family gatherings, remember me for all the things I taught you, for traditions I passed along to you. Take my journals and read them as they celebrate the life I lived loving everyone of you. Smile and sing as my life with you all was filled with love, joy, happiness. Know that I am with each one of you following you in your journey’s and adventures until we meet again, remember me as I smiled and said “love you”.

    Wow!! Thanks Larry!!

    • admin February 26, 2011 at 10:53 am

      Debbie that is a WOW to you. Awesome Eulogy. Thank you for your gentle nudge.

  3. tbaoo February 26, 2011 at 4:25 am

    here lies at peace at last, the ravaged body of tbaoo. he lived life as an exercise in cynicism, sarcasm, observation ( he did like to sneak a look at less than well dressed young ladies) and just having a laugh. he might think that you being here justifies his silliness .. now enjoy this amazing song he has planned for you .. cheers alan

    • admin February 26, 2011 at 10:37 am

      It seems tbaoo that at least you get exercise in one form. Your blog and antics sure do bring a laugh and smile to everybody. So keep it going and enjoy your decadent lifestyle, because it sure seems to do you good!

  4. Yogasavy February 26, 2011 at 4:27 am

    Larry you humble me by your words and respect for my thoughts and writings. When I started out to write it was just to let loose my experiences and the rest as you know has evolved into something new for me.
    As you write I do catch a glimpse of ‘Larry’ he unveils a bit of himself be it with a word or a sentence. That is enough to grab your readers and wanting more of you. Allowing the veil of the outer self ( which I relate to what others want the self to be) is not so easy to do. Imagine the beauty of the self that is waiting to blossom……

    My eulogy: I acknowledge each and every one of you for bringing light, wisdom, love, hurt, sadness and much more into my life. You showed me my true self and are here to see me through my last steps. I began my journey with you and am blessed that I am able to end with all of you by my side. ( this last sentence is a must as I am known for my shoes, My shoes are left to those who can fit int them…….. )
    Thank you and Love you

    • admin February 26, 2011 at 10:35 am

      Thank you! Yogasavy it is us that are blessed by you touching our lives. Why is it that many ladies have more shoes then us guys have items of clothing?

  5. Fernando-Alejandro February 26, 2011 at 4:47 am

    Thanks Larry and Good exercises they both are too. He is dead! Let’s party!!!! I’ll have to get back to you Larry on this exercise.

    I can see you popping your head around the corner slowly stepping out and it’s brilliant. We will see you on the other side.

    Cheers A

    • admin February 26, 2011 at 10:32 am

      Looking forward to joining you on the other side … the dark side i assume

  6. Susan Deborah February 26, 2011 at 1:24 pm

    Larry, haven’t thought of an eulogy as living is quite a handful as of now. I don’t much believing in controlling things after I die so let ’em write whatever.

    Joy always,
    Susan

    • LarryLewis February 26, 2011 at 2:01 pm

      Susan. I totally agree that once we pass away it’s to late to shape the life we led. The point of writing our eulogy now, is to bring more conbtrol to our life, and determine the destiny we wish to achieve. One exercise i was taught, was to visualise my ‘wake’, to hear all the conversations, to see the people present, to feel the emotions in the room, and to determine the ‘mark’ i left. Then for a week to visualise the life i wanted to lead, and the contribution i made, to then revisit my final day and see, hear and feel the positive impact my life made.

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