A 15 year old boy getting angry or changing can be difficult to
I have a 15 year old son who has suddenly transformed into an angry person who doesn’t want to talk or accept anything his father suggests?
It’s like he has suddenly become 15 and angry overnight.
What happened to that easy going fun loving child I used to know?
I know he is undergoing many changes. Yet I thought I had a very good relationship with him. I guess I was very wrong. He finds it very difficult to talk to me? Often we sit in the car on long journeys and he just doesn’t say anything. The more I try to find out what is wrong the more he just withdraws away from me.
I know I should not take the situation personally however when you don’t know how to get through to him anymore it becomes disturbing?
I have sort the advice of his school. The people at his school say there is nothing to concern yourself about. They reassure me that this is a difficult weird part of a young boy’s life. Yet as he father this does not comfort me? It’s like I am changing and I don’t know how to deal with it.
What causes anger in 15 year old boys?
Is it the changes that are taking place in their body? Is it there push to be independent and going overboard with this. Is it something to do with pressure or a feeling of unworthiness? All of these questions keep swirling through my head.
As yet I do not have any answers, however some of th experts seems to suggest:
The changes taking part through puberty do impact on my sons anger.
Some suggestion I found useful to begin using are:
Talk to other parents and seek out their advice. I will probably realize from these discussions that most children go through similar experiences at that tender age.
I also think it’s important to look for the humor in the situation to get past the bad feelings I may have. This is not always easy especially when he thinks dad jokes are lame.
If I cast your mind back to what I was like at his age it might provide me with some insights on how he may be perceiving me. At 15 he believes that the information and wisdom you possess is somewhat redundant. Mum and dad say silly things that embarrass him in front of their peers.
The main lesson I have learnt from this is to not take it personally. It is not about me! It is my son’s stage of life and growing into an independent adolescent.
Our relationship will never be the same as it was when my child was small, however it will eventually get better.
In most cases when your child is older and they get more of a sense of themselves they begin to understand you more.
He needs to know that I am okay with him becoming more independent.
If I can let go of some of the expectations of closeness and of my child being there for me, he won’t need to push me away as hard.
It is a difficult period in his life so my best option is to be there for him, support and guide him when he needs my advice and let him get on with the job of growing up.
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